This blog is devoted to parents and the art of parenting. The information shared on this blog is entirely designed to help parents be better at parenting. We all want that, but sometimes we need a pointer in a new direction, or a piece of information that completes the puzzle. That is what I am here to do.

My mission:

To help parents see themselves and their children in ways they never have before.

Why the focus on parenting? I’ve spent many years working with parents and their teens. I have developed a passion for it. When we parent our children, we do so with all of our experiences. Therefore if something from our past, or present, is affecting our thoughts, emotions or behaviors, then it will affect our parenting as well.

How do your patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving affect your parenting? Do you know what your patterns are? If not, how can you find out what they are? Then once you do find out, what do you do about them? So this is about self-improvement for the purpose of parenting.

No Recipes or Crafts

The mommy-bloggers seem to have cornered the market on Parenting blogs which provide a staple diet of crafts, activities, and recipes, with a sprinkling of parenting tips or stories. You won’t find those on this website. Don’t get me wrong, those are good things to have. However, I just want to focus on the parenting part. The relationship. What works and doesn’t work.


Parenting is not natural. We are born narcissistic little tyrants, and we only know what we grow up with. Until we learn something else. So we are cursed with beginning with what we were given. And since all parents make mistakes, we don’t always know where those holes are until we discover them, and how they are impacting us and others.

Self-Improvement for Parents

We all want to be better parents, whether its just being better than our parents were, or a quest to be the best parents on the planet. But how do you do that? Oh sure, you can read the latest parenting or self help books and any number of other resources. But here is what I have found works for my clients over the years: diving into what makes you tick. Your stuff. The stuff that makes you think, feel and behave the way you do. If you figure that stuff out, anything can be changed.

A Conversation

This is not a quest for the faint of heart. This stuff takes guts. And it takes a community of like minded people to help you stay on track. That is why this year, 2015, I will be adding videos and other things to make this site more interactive. A conversation to help as many as possible.

Here’s to better parenting from a better you.


Todd has been a therapist for over 20 years in a variety of settings. An unconventional therapist who tells the truth, Todd has taught undergraduate and graduate level courses, and authored his first book, Simply Relate.

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